This is my first blog post. My blog isn’t very specific, like “How to Travel Cheaply” or “Healthy Living.” It’s sort of a mix of interesting life experiences, travel, and lessons learned. My About Me gives some more info.
There are many people that “know” me, but don’t really know me. I’m sure others can relate to this. It may look like I know what I’m doing, that things go smoothly, but that is far from truth. In just the past 7 months I have been through two surgeries, and all the procedures that followed. At one point in recovering, I felt the lowest I’ve been in my life. Unforeseen events caused me a lot of pain, physical and mental. I was, at times, angry that I had to go through this, especially at such an important time. It was both a blessing and a hardship.
I’d say that most all of us are conditioned to live life a certain way, to follow a certain path. Something that I have been fighting for my whole life is to prove, mostly to myself, that the circumstances of your birth do not determine your destiny. No matter how disadvantaged you are physically, mentally, financially, you have the power to do something remarkable. I personally want to do something remarkable with my life. I want to do something that affects people positively, that causes change. I think most people do.
The most rewarding experiences come from doing things that make you uncomfortable. I have learned that first hand. I used to have bad anxiety and overall felt lost. The daunting task of doing almost anything would stop me in my tracks, and because of that I didn’t get anywhere. There were other factors at play, things that made me different, things that happened that I couldn’t control. But I couldn’t let those things stop me. The moment I began forcing myself to do things I really wanted to do, things that made me nervous, that made me uncomfortable, I began to make great strides in a positive direction. Sometimes you just have to stop overthinking, and do it, even if it seems crazy. People might tell you that you’re crazy, until you do something great and then they will tell you that you’re inspirational.
We all have our own thoughts, experiences, and pain. There is a quote from a man, whose story, though maybe not inspirational to many, was inspirational to me in a certain way. He wrote “Happiness is only real when shared.” I used to think about this a lot. Is this true and what does this even mean? At first glance, one might think this means that we can’t be happy when we are by ourselves. One might even assume that means we need to find someone to share our life with. I think those are just thoughts that barely scratch the surface of the real meaning.
You will meet many people in your life who can teach you many things. The ones who you connect with on a deeper level, the ones who you can trust and respect, are important. I think that too much importance is placed on romantic relationships. Of course, our life could be more enriched from a healthy romantic relationship, but I think a basic human need is to have healthy platonic relationships. We put so much importance on the romantic idea of love, when love can be found in many different forms.
I currently have plenty of time to think, hence this post. I will be back on my feet again soon, ready to take on the next challenge. Now, I have some choices to make, but I am having a hard time between the many paths of life I could take. I don’t know how much of it is what society wants from me, and how much is what I want from myself.
I still have much to learn and a lot to improve on. I am still figuring out what life is all about. You can let your problems and your differences consume you and let you believe that you can’t achieve the things you want. You can let them be reasons to stay down and say “Why me?” Or, you can use those same problems and same differences to become stronger, more motivated, and gain a much better insight on life. It isn’t easy and it takes hard work, it takes guts, it takes being uncomfortable, but you can create your own destiny. You don’t have to accept a life that doesn’t fulfill you.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Wow thank you for sharing this. I can relate especially when it comes to anxiety and getting out of your comfort zone, it’s something I’m working on everyday along with self pity. Also I love the point you made about finding love in other places besides romantic relationships, couldn’t agree more.
Feeling lucky to have a friend who is as brave as you…I’m always inspired by the things you’ve overcome and accomplished!
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Thanks Allison, I appreciate that a lot. I am really glad to hear you’re working on those things, I know how it is.
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“People might tell you that you’re crazy, until you do something great and then they will tell you that you’re inspirational.”
Wow man, that speaks to me for sure! I may be applying that to a picture at some point in time if you don’t mind. We are really running into that with our current adventure. Like you said, leaving your comfort zone, is a big deal. This whole adventure for us was started when my Dad passed away at the end of last year. It’s one of those things that it’s unfortunate that it takes an all time low to really see what you are made of. “Life isn’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can GET HIT and keep moving forward”.
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Hi Nate, thanks for reading! I’m glad you connected with the words. Sure, go ahead and use the words, maybe a link to my blog? Sorry to hear about your dad passing, man. My father also passed away when I was younger. It’s good to hear that something new is coming from it though, I firmly believe that with hard situations comes amazing growth, if we accept it.
Hi Mike. Thanks for writing this article, it seems what I want to convey, what I am currently going through “the turmoil within me”, you already have expressed it in words. I mean I really want to do something remarkable in life and there is this rush within me that is really not letting me settle. And this hyped notion of ‘romantic love’ is really crap for me right now. I mean by reading your article I am sorted to an extent and just want to figure my life out. Our Twenties are really the best times to figure things out and gain an insight of reality.
Shivani, thanks for reading my post. I’m glad that you were able to relate to my thoughts. We really don’t have to follow what society thinks is the right way do things, or what everyone defines as ‘success’ or who can be successful. We have to break through and explore ourselves and what we are capable of. I hope you find your way!
“You don’t have to accept a life that doesn’t fulfill you.” Thank you for writing this. Hopefully all of us will have the courage to leave our comfort zone and pursue that dream. Semangat!